Now, this is what you will do because forgiveness is not cheap in cases like this. You are going to invite him for a meeting with your mother and the man you know as father. Everyone is going to calculate what they have spent on you for 32 years.
For a start, you will ask for ₦50million for general and special damages. This will cover costs of feeding, schooling, healthcare, clothing and emotional and psychological stress and trauma his absence caused.
If he can pay, then collect the money and forgive him. The money will be shared by you and your known parents. He will be present in your life but that doesn’t take away the fact that you will always acknowledge the man who took care of you as your father also. This gives you two fathers in life.
If he says he cannot pay, which definitely he will not be able to pay because he is only showing up because you have made it and wants to reap where he did not sow.
For him to be aware of your house opening ceremony shows he has been standing by the window observing your growth and waiting for you to make it in life so he can show up.
If you were picking komkom or iron condemn on the streets, he will not show up to announce being your father.
Give him a stem warning to stay away from you all and that if he ever reappears again, you will have him arrested and imprisoned for stalking, harassméñt and child abandonment.
If he still shows up again after the warning, go ahead to arrest him because the law allows you to arrest an irresponsible father. Push the case and he will spend nothing less than 7 years in prison. This will serve as a deterrent to others who think they can abandon their responsibilities, show up when they like to reap where they did not sow or wait on the belief that “The child will look for the father when he grows up”
I am sure your known father will be proud of you for acknowledging his efforts in your life.
